This week for our Marriage class we have been discussing sexual intimacy and fidelity in marriage. This is a very important topic when it comes to marriage and yet often between spouses it is taboo. One of our readings really stood out to me, it is called Fulfilling the Sexual Stewardship in Marriage by Sean E. Brotherson. In the reading Brotherson shares three of four attitudes about sexual intimacy in marriage that can poison that relationship between spouses and cause problems that can lead to divorce.
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The second is Inhibition; "avoidance of dealing with one's thoughts, feelings, desires, or behaviors related to sexual functioning in marriage. Many husbands and wives who have an adequate understanding of sexual matters in marriage still struggle to overcome negative thoughts or feelings associated with the expression of sexual love. I have discussed this phenomenon with a large number of couples who, despite their love for each other, have found it difficult to become comfortable in verbalizing their feelings or touching each other in intimate ways after marriage. They may have a somewhat functional sex life, but they often find it disturbed by thoughts of unwholesomeness, feelings of anxiety or uncertainty, or inability to express themselves physically in ways that are open and comfortable and pleasing to each other." (Brotherson)
The last is Ill Will; "a catch-all term for emotional or verbal abuse, inattentiveness, apathy, isolation, anger, or other forms of negativity that couples may practice and thus perpetuate a cycle of ill feeling and willful hurt in a marriage relationship. No aspect of marriage is more sensitive to emotional upheaval than the sexual relationship. [...] In several ways, ill will can undermine or sabotage the fulfillment of sexual love in marriage." (Brotherson)
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